Have you ever found yourself lost in thought about what\u2019s not working in your life? About what you wish you did have, instead of what you do have? I think most people do have this experience, although many won\u2019t admit it. To be perfectly honest, I\u2019ll even let you know that, in spite of the fact that I teach proven, successful, transformational skills to people every day, there are times when my old habits creep up to grab me when I am not paying attention. ( I find it happens particularly when I am tired, just like a little child gets easily overwhelmed when they are tired, or hungry.)<\/p>\n
The antidote to self-defeating behavior like that begins with something very simple, and free : daily self-acceptance.<\/p>\n
This is a crucial practice. I know it can be hard to do.<\/p>\n
When you catch yourself engaging in some self- defeating behavior that sneaks in almost unnoticed, like procrastinating ( which is an avoidance behavior), or finding one more thing you \u201d have to do\u201d that makes you late for something else ( which is also covering up a deeper message to both yourself and the other party), the most common response to yourself is to shame and blame yourself. \u201d Oh, no! There I go again! I did it again! I\u2019ll never get it right. What\u2019s the use in trying, anyway?\u201d<\/p>\n
Resolve gives way to self-defeat, even disgust. Before you even realize it, you are slipping into more self-sabotaging thinking and behavior.<\/p>\n
The truth is that every living human being has some habits that are not the best. Everyone can slip into aself-defeating thinking or behavior, if even for a moment. Most of us hate to admit it. Many people do a really good job of hiding it from their awareness. ( By the way, that doesn\u2019t make it go away. I Can guarantee you of that. Denial is only denial, not healing.)<\/p>\n
So you need to start with daily self-acceptance. Accepting yourself daily does not mean being complacent about how you are being in life, or how your life looks, if there are things that you want to change. Daily self-acceptance means acknowledging yourself for where you are \u2013 not reprimanding yourself for where you are not. Then, stretch just a little bit more and add daily gratitude. You are the only you on the planet \u2013 and no one can take your place. Your place is very important to all the pieces of life fitting together, whether you can see it or not. There are people who need you, and want you, and count on you \u2013 whether you are aware of it or not. Like your boss, or your neighbor, or the handyman you smile at on your way to work, or your partner, or your child. You matter \u2013 and no one can take your place. And you have a special purpose here on planet Earth that no one else can fulfill.<\/p>\n
No matter where you are on your path of personal growth and evolution, take a moment each day to breathe and consciously accept yourself exactly as you are today. Stretch that even a little bit more, and be grateful for being you today. You are exactly where you need to be, for reasons larger than you can see. You are farther along than you were yesterday, even if you can\u2019t tell. It is the law of growth.<\/p>\n
A lovely author by the name of Judith R. Smith wrote, \u201cMy life might not be perfect, and I might not have achieved the goals I thought I would have by now \u2014 I might not be living the kind of life I thought I would be or want to be, but I\u2019m grateful for this day, right now, and the fact that I\u2019ve made a commitment to myself to live a life in which I\u2019m treated with respect and dignity.\u201d<\/p>\n
I love that thought, and I hold it dear. No matter what, I have committed to myself to live a life in which I am treated with respect and dignity. I have rebuilt and reshaped my whole life so that it is so. I have learned how to transform relationships, and release those that are not supportive and may be toxic to me. I would love to help you learn to do this, too.<\/p>\n
Every day, accept yourself for where and who you are. Commit to yourself to keep growing, even when you can\u2019t tell you are. The universe will move in unforeseen ways to make it so.<\/p>\n
Until next time, give yourself the gift of remembering that you are unique, one of a kind. No one can take your place. Have a lovely moment with you. You deserve it.<\/p>\n
With my very best,<\/p>\n
Kathryn<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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